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Glossary


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Glossary

There are a lot of words that people can use for different reasons. These can also change between communities. People can always choose the words that are right for them!

We’ve explained some common terms. We do our best to keep this list updated, but we know that meanings and circumstances can change over time. Feel free to text us if you see something that doesn’t look right.

Addiction: When the part of your brain that helps with reward, motivation, and memory isn’t working well. This makes your body react differently to rewards and excitement. It might be very hard to stop yourself from going after rewarding or exciting things. A lot of people get addicted to things that make them feel good, like drugs or alcohol.

AFAB: Stands for Assigned Female at Birth. It means that when someone was born, a healthcare worker said they were female. They usually decided because they saw a clitoris and not a penis. Being assigned female at birth doesn’t mean someone’s a woman. They can be any gender!

AMAB: Stands for Assigned Male at Birth. It means that when someone was born, a healthcare worker said they were male. They usually decided because they saw a penis and not a clitoris. Being assigned male at birth doesn’t mean someone’s a man. They can be any gender!

Asexual: A sexual orientation where someone experiences little to no sexual attraction to any gender. This can mean different things to different people, like only feeling sexual attraction in specific circumstances or not at all. It doesn’t mean someone can’t experience other types of attraction like romantic and emotional.

Aromantic: A romantic orientation where a person doesn’t feel romantically attracted to people or want to have romantic relationships. They can still feel sexual attraction and want to have sex.

BDSM: Stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. This includes a lot of things that people might like doing with partners, like tying each other up or giving or getting control. Sadism is liking giving pain and masochism is liking getting it.

Blockers: Also known as puberty blockers. These are medications that younger trans and non-binary people can use to stop or slow down puberty. They work by keeping the body from making hormones like testosterone and estrogen, which cause puberty.

Bottom Growth / Dick: A sensitive part at the top of some trans men and non-binary people’s external parts. It often grows if someone starts to take testosterone.

Bottom Surgery: Surgery that changes a person’s genitals. Some examples are vaginoplasty, phalloplasty and metoidioplasty.

Chest: Some people can use the more general word to specifically talk about the chest of trans men or non-binary people who haven’t had top surgery.

Cisgender: An identity where someone’s gender is the same as the one often linked to the sex they were assigned at birth. For example, a woman who was assigned female at birth is cisgender.

Compulsion: When you get a really strong feeling that you have to do something. Doing it might make you feel better or less stressed for a little while. But the feeling that you need to do it comes back. You might do the same thing over and over again, even if it’s not fun or you don’t really want to.

Emergency Contraception: Also known as the morning-after pill or Plan B. A medication people with uteruses can take to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex, sex with a condom that tore, or rape. It can come under several different brand names.

External Genitals: The genitals that are outside of the pelvis. You can usually see these body parts between people’s legs. They include parts like the clitoris, labia, penis, scrotum, and urethra.

Front Hole: A hole in some trans men and non-binary people’s external parts. Some people like having it penetrated for sexual pleasure.

Front Hole Sex: When someone’s front hole is penetrated with a penis, a strapless, a sex toy, fingers, or something else.

Internal Genitals: The genitals that are inside of the pelvis, between people’s hips. You can’t usually see these body parts, or they’re hard to see. They include parts like a vagina, uterus, ovaries, prostate, and ejaculatory duct.

Muffing: When someone uses fingers or other small objects to penetrate their partner’s inguinal canals. These are narrow, short tubes on either side of someone’s external parts.

Packing: When a trans man or non-binary person wears a prosthetic penis and/or testicles. This can give the appearance and feel of more bulging external parts.

Queer: An identity that a lot of people use as a catch-all umbrella word for people who aren’t cisgender, heterosexual, or either. It is was once an offensive slur and some people still think it’s hateful. But many 2SLGBTQIA+ people have reclaimed it and use it for themselves and their community.

Strapless: An external part that some trans women and non-binary people have. Some people like using it to penetrate a partner, like a strapless dildo.

Top Surgery: Surgery that changes a person’s chest. Some examples are mastectomy and breast augmentation.

Tucking: When someone pulls their strapless or penis back and secures it between their legs. It’s more common for trans women, non-binary people, and drag performers. Someone can also push their hanging bits or testicles into their inguinal canals. These are the pockets where they descended from before birth. Tucking can give the appearance and feel of flatter external parts.