Squirting, also sometimes called “female ejaculation,” is when someone with a vulva ejaculates (ejects fluid) from their urethra (pee hole) during sex. Sometimes they will have an orgasm at the same time, and sometimes they won’t.
Is it pee?
Even though people squirt from the urethra, the same place pee comes out, most research on squirting says that the liquid that comes out when people squirt isn’t pee. Instead, it’s a separate fluid made by the Skene’s glands, a set of glands in the urethra. This fluid can be milky or clear.
Can everyone squirt?
If you have a vulva and G-spot, you might be able to squirt. However, most people with these parts won’t squirt in their lifetime. Also know that not everyone who can squirt enjoys squirting! Like any sex act, it feels good to some people and doesn’t feel good to others. Only you get to decide if you want to do it or not.
How can I squirt? How can I help a partner squirt?
Many people say squirting happens when someone’s G-spot is stimulated. The G-spot is an area of spongy tissue on the front wall of the vagina, near the belly. It’s usually about the size of a dime, but it can swell and get hard when it’s touched. People usually find that having their G-spot touched feels a bit like needing to pee. Some people enjoy having it touched, and some don’t.
There are different ways to touch your G-spot or someone else’s. You can try moving a finger or two into the vagina facing toward the belly, and moving your fingers like you’re asking someone to come over to you. You can also use curved sex toys to rub the G-spot. Some people’s G-spots are stimulated in penis-in-vagina or sex toy-in-vagina sex, but that’s less common. Some positions can touch the G-spot more often, like “missionary” where the receiving partner has their legs up, or “doggy style.”
Sometimes, these will lead you or your partner to squirt. Some people find it helps to push out like when they’re peeing when they feel close to an orgasm.
Sometimes squirting comes along with an orgasm, and sometimes it doesn’t. Some people might find squirting happens easily or even unexpectedly. For others, it might take lots of tries to figure out how to squirt.
Remember, squirting can get messy. If you want to give it a try, think about putting down some towels to catch the liquid, or having sex somewhere like a shower that’s easy to clean!
How can I stop squirting?
Some people find they squirt without meaning or wanting to. If you would like to stop yourself from squirting sometimes or all the time, there are a few things you can try.
You can try different angles during sex or masturbation that put less pressure on your G-spot. You can also try to clench your pelvic muscles the way you would to stop from peeing. Remember, though, that squirting is just another thing some bodies do during sex, and isn’t something you need to be embarrassed about!
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