Fisting is when someone puts their hand into their partner’s vagina, front hole, or anus. A lot of people say it feels good and intense! Like all sex acts, fisting needs enthusiastic consent from everyone involved. It can be challenging, but having lots of patience, trust, communication and preparation can lower the risk for any pain or injury.
How do I fist someone or get fisted?
Before you start, you can do a lot of foreplay so everyone is aroused. A lot of people say the more relaxed they are, the better fisting feels! You can kiss, have oral sex, use your fingers, or whatever else feels good to get each other turned on.
When everyone’s ready, you can put one finger in your partner’s privates. Once it feels comfortable, you can add another finger. You can take it slow and add lube as you go. It always helps to talk to your partner and ask if they’re comfortable and everything feels good!
Once all of your fingers are in your partner’s privates, you can curl your hand into a fist or leave it open. Some people also rub their partner’s privates to help them orgasm.
When you’re done, taking your hand out slowly can lower the risk for any injury. That’s especially true if it feels like your partner’s privates are squeezing your hand.
What do people like about fisting?
People can like fisting for lots of reasons! For example, some like the intimacy or the feeling of ‘fullness’ that they get, and some people like knowing that they have enough trust to fist with their partners. But some don’t enjoy fisting, or just aren’t interested in trying it, and that’s okay, too! Everyone is different.
Fisting can also stimulate the g-spot or prostate gland. This can feel really good for some people and it might give them intense orgasms.
As long as everyone is happy and excited about fisting, it can be a safe, healthy, and intimate part of your sex life!
Is fisting safe? How can I practice safer fisting?
There’s a low risk for getting or giving an STI through fisting. Fisting can also be hard on your body. Someone can get hurt if you’re not careful. It helps to talk to your partner and take time to prepare. If you rush, fisting might be painful or injure someone.
Here are some ways you can make fisting safer and more comfortable:
- Trim and clean your fingernails.
- Wear latex or nitrile gloves. These prevent STIs and help hands go smoothly into someone’s privates.
- Use lots of lube. Silicone or water-based lube are safe and they won’t damage latex.
- Go slowly. Take time to relax and warm up. Put one finger in at a time.
If you or your partners have heavy bleeding after, doctors recommend going to the emergency room immediately. It could be a serious injury.
Fisting might not be for everyone. If you don’t want to try it or you don’t like it, that’s okay! Like with other kinds of sex, fisting feels good for some people and it doesn’t for others. If you and your partners like it and do it safely, it can be a fun part of your sex life! But you can have a fun sex life without it, too.
