There are many slang phrases relating to sex that you might see online. Some of these are about common sex acts, while others are jokes. Some of these terms come from internet memes, from gay culture, or any number of sources!
This is a list of terms we sometimes get questions about. We’ve done our best to give short, basic definitions here! If you ever hear a sex-related word or phrase and you’re not sure what it means, you can text us at 514-700-4411 and ask our team!
Alaskan Pipeline
An Alaskan Pipeline is slang for when somebody poops into a condom, freezes it, and then uses it as a dildo.
Freezing a condom can make it more likely to break. This means using an Alaskan Pipeline has a high risk for infections that spread through poop, like E. coli. Putting another, unfrozen, condom over the Alaskan Pipeline may add a layer of protection and decrease the chances of infection.
Blue Waffle
Blue Waffle is the name of a fictional STBBI that became a meme online around 2016. Posts about it usually included an image of a vulva digitally coloured blue. While Blue Waffle isn’t a real illness, there are some STBBIs and other things that can cause discoloration of the labia or vulva!
Blumpkin
A blumpkin is slang for giving oral sex to a penis or strapless while the receiving partner is pooping.
Blumpkins involve the same risks for STBBIs as any other act of oral sex on a penis. However, if feces (poop) gets near or inside your mouth, you could also get infections like E. coli, salmonella, or norovirus.
Boofing
Boofing is taking drugs by inserting or having someone else insert them into the anus. To do this, someone can use their fingers to put drugs up someone’s butt. Or, they can put the drugs on their penis, a dildo, etc and have anal sex. It can also be done with a syringe or enema!
There are some risks associated with boofing, depending on how someone does it and what drugs they’re using. For more on safety when boofing, check out this link!
Bussy
Bussy is a portmanteau, or combination word, made up of the words “boy” and “pussy”. It’s a slang term for a man’s anus. Usually, it’s a joking or light-hearted term!
Chemsex (or Party n’ Play/PNP)
This is a term for when people combine sex with drug use. It’s especially common within the gay community’s party scene.
Having sex under the influence of drugs can have some risks, including risk for STBBIs like HIV. People often make decisions differently when they’re high than they do sober, and can have impaired judgement. It’s important to think about and talk about what you are and aren’t okay with while you’re sober if you plan on having sex while using drugs. Using safer sex and drug use materials can also help lower the risk for STBBIs!
Edging (or Gooning)
Edging is when someone comes very close to the point of orgasm without actually cumming. Gooning refers to when someone does this while masturbating specifically.
In some circles online, “gooner” is an insult. Calling someone a gooner means you think they must spend a lot of time watching porn and masturbating.
Fap/Fapping
Fapping is just another word for masturbating! Sometimes it means masturbating to porn, erotica, or other media specifically.
Felching
Felching is slang for ejaculating into someone’s anus or vagina, and then sucking or eating the ejaculate fluid (cum, or semen) out of the anus or vagina after.
Since felching involves having anal or vaginal sex without a condom, it has a high risk for STBBIs like HIV and syphilis. Vaginal sex without a condom also has a risk for pregnancy, even if someone sucks all the cum out after. Sucking cum out of someone’s anus can also have a risk of getting sick from bacteria or parasites found in poop, like E. Coli and tapeworms. Getting tested for STIs regularly and talking about your STI status with your partner can help lower the risk for giving or getting STIs from felching!
Frotting
Frotting is slang term for when two people rub their genitals together for pleasure without penetration.
Glazing
Glazing is a term which comes from talking about oral sex, during which someone might “glaze” their partner’s penis or strapless with saliva. Despite the sexual origin, this term usually just means being overly or unnecessarily complimentary towards another person and doesn’t always have a sexual connotation.
Golden Shower
A golden shower refers to a stream of urine, specifically one directed at another person in a sexual context. This slang term is often used to talk about piss play.
Contrary to popular belief, urine isn’t sterile once it leaves the body. It can contain bacteria from UTIs and some STBBIs, including gonorrhea. If someone is using drugs, it can also contain traces of those drugs! Peeing on someone’s skin and then washing it off is fairly low-risk. But, there can be some risk for illness or secondary drug effects from drinking pee. Talking about STBBI status and safer sex beforehand can help make golden showers safer!
Pearl Necklace
A pearl necklace refers to when a person ejaculates on their partner’s chest and/or neck area. The term comes from the way the white colour of the ejaculate fluid resembles a pearl necklace. ‘Giving someone a pearl necklace’ happens after a person withdraws their penis before ejaculating during vaginal, oral, or anal sex.
The Plumber
The Plumber is a sexual position where, during penetrative sex, partners stay together for as long as possible without orgasming. It’s called this because “you stay in all day, but nobody comes.” Some people like having slow sex because they feel it’s more intimate and can lead to more powerful orgasms later. Another term for this kind of slow penetrative sex is tantric sex.
The Plumber has the same risks of STIs and pregnancy as regular vaginal or anal sex. Using lots of lube can help prevent irritation of the vagina or anus caused by prolonged penetration!
Rusty Trombone
A rusty trombone is slang for giving a handjob to someone’s penis or strapless while rimming them (giving oral sex on their anus). Using your mouth and jerking your hand back and forth in that position can look like playing the trombone.
Giving a handjob to a penis can have a risk for STBBIs which spread through skin-to-skin contact, such as herpes. Rimming can have a risk for viral and bacterial STIs, as well as other infections like E. coli. Using a dental dam, or a thin sheet of latex placed over the anus, can lower the risk.
Santorum
Santorum describes a mix of fecal matter and lube that can sometimes be the product of anal sex. The term became popular after appearing in the Dan Savage advice column, Savage Love.
If you’re worried about santorum during anal sex, it can help to gently wash the anus with warm water and a finger before starting. Condoms can help make sure nobody gets santorum on their dick, strapless, or toys during anal. Adding lube can help prevent anal tears and condom breakage by reducing friction!
Shrimping
Shrimping is when someone sucks on someone else’s toes. Sometimes people with foot fetishes do it, but other people can do it too! There aren’t a lot of risks to shrimping. If you or your partner have open sores or cuts on your feet or one of you has athlete’s foot or another foot infection, it’s best not to put your mouth on their feet until it gets better.
Smash
Smash just means to have sex! It’s usually used when referring to casual sex. It’s also associated with the game “smash or pass”, in which someone gives another person the names of celebrities, acquaintances, or other people, and the person has to say whether or not they would have sex with them.
Sounding
Sounding is when someone has an object, usually a thin metal rod, inserted into their urethra for sexual pleasure. Not everyone enjoys sounding, but some people like the feeling and look of it!
Sounding can have a risk for injury or for UTIs. To lower the risk, someone can use sounding rods or plugs made of sterile, medical-grade metal or silicone. It’s also recommended to not do sounding if you have a history of frequent UTIs.
Thirst Trap
A thirst trap is a sexy photo or video that someone posts on social media to make other people “thirsty”, or turned on. Usually, a thirst trap is not sexually explicit, but it might be a photo of someone wearing revealing clothing, or a video of them looking into the camera and biting their lip. Some people find that really hot!
Wet And Messy (WAM)
Wet and Messy, or sploshing, refers to activities that involve getting messy by playing with or getting covered in something wet. This could include lotion, food, mud, water, paint, slime, and shaving cream! It does not include bodily fluids. That’s because sex isn’t always a part of wet and messy. While it’s a common fetish, and can be part of sex, it can also be a sensation someone enjoys outside of sex.
Some of these slang terms sound pretty weird… do people REALLY do that?
Every now and then, specific sex acts or terms will go viral due to being seen as “extreme” or “weird” by people at large. Terms like blumpkin and Alaskan pipeline, for example, probably wouldn’t be as widely known as they are today if many people didn’t think their definitions sounded weird!
If you hear about a sex act that sounds really extreme, weird, or gross to you, it’s okay to feel that way. Knowing what doesn’t sound appealing to you is just as important as knowing what sounds hot when it comes to finding sex that feels great for you! We don’t know how common or uncommon some of the sex acts listed here are. But if you’re wondering if anyone could ever enjoy a specific sex act you’ve just heard about, the answer is probably yes!
