Pegging is the act of someone without a penis using a strap-on dildo to penetrate someone else’s anus. It usually describes a woman penetrating a man. But pegging can mean different things to different people. It could be between people of all different genders. It can also include using a strap-on, dildo or any other anal toy.

How can someone get started with pegging?

If you’re interested in pegging you can start by talking to your partners about it. You can discuss what your expectations are, what kind of sex toys you want to use, and your boundaries. Some people can feel embarrassed for wanting to explore anal play because of the stigma. Some people also worry about hygiene. Talking about it beforehand can make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable.

The next step is deciding what kind of sex toy to use. If you’re using a strap-on you will need both a harness and the dildo. The strap-on is usually pretty easy to put on. You may need to adjust the straps for your body. You could do this beforehand in private or with help from your partners.

Tips for Beginners

If you’re new to anal play, you can start with fingers or other small toys before moving on to pegging. Getting turned on can help your body relax. When your muscles are tense it can make it harder to put things inside. This can increase the risk of discomfort or pain. Going slow can also help your body stay relaxed. Unlike the vagina, the anus can create a sort of suction. This means that things you put inside might go deeper than you expected. To lower the risk of objects getting stuck, you can use toys that have a flared base. This helps keep them anchored outside of the body.

If this is your first time, there are lots of options available. There are panty-style strap-ons that you put on like you would any pair of underwear. These are easy to put on and use. There are also slimmer dildos that can feel more comfortable for beginners. Over time, as you get used to the feeling you can work your way up to larger sizes. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating, so it does not create its own fluid. Adding water-based lube can help reduce friction and the risk of tearing. You can find water-based lube at a pharmacy, in the same sections as condoms.

Does pegging make you gay?

Anal play can feel good for anyone with an anus. People of any sexuality will have a wide range of things they like and fantasize about. It’s easiest to massage the prostate from inside the anus. This is a very sensitive body part that can feel great when toys, dildos, or fingers touch it. Experiencing pleasure this way is common!

It’s also very common to want different types of sex. There are men who identify as gay that do not like anal sex. There are also men who identify as straight who do. Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to. It’s separate from the kinds of acts you enjoy. Having or enjoying anal play doesn’t change your sexual orientation.

Afterwards

After your pegging activities, you can check in with each other. You can talk about what you liked or what you didn’t like. You can also discuss what you could do differently next time. Everyone has different needs after sex, especially when you are trying something new. Some people might want to cuddle, nap, shower, or have water and snacks. Checking in can help to end the experience on a positive note.

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