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I’m Pregnant, Now What? Understanding Your Options

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Finding out that you’re pregnant can be overwhelming. If you just learned that you’re pregnant, there’s no wrong way to feel about it. It can help to acknowledge how you feel and talk to someone you trust.
It’s important to get the information you need to make the right choices for you. Whatever you decide, know that your body is your own. You should be the person who has the final say in what happens to it. You have three options, abortion, adoption, and parenting, and you can take the time you need to find that option that suits you and your unique situation best. It’s also okay if you know right away which option is right for you.

Your first steps after a positive pregnancy test

If you’ve taken a pregnancy test and it gave a positive (pregnant) result, you may be feeling a lot of different things. You may know right away what you want to do, or you may need some more time to think. It can help to see a doctor or nurse at a CLSC or other clinic. At the clinic, you can do a second test to confirm that you’re pregnant. You can also talk to the doctor or nurse about your options.

What are my options if I’m pregnant?

If you’re pregnant, you have three options: abortion, adoption, and parenting. Abortion means ending the pregnancy. Adoption and parenting both involve staying pregnant and eventually giving birth. All options are valid choices. What you choose may depend on a lot of different things, so it can help to learn as much as you can about all the different options.

Abortion

If you know that you don’t want to be pregnant and don’t want to give birth, then abortion might be a good option for you. In Quebec, abortion is legal, safe, and free if you have RAMQ health insurance.

You have time to decide whether or not you want to get an abortion. You can get a medical abortion (using the abortion pill) up to 9 weeks after your last period and you can get a surgical abortion up to 22 weeks after your last period. If you decide you want to get an abortion, you can find a clinic and call to make an appointment.

Adoption

Adoption means that you give up any parental rights you have of the child. That means that you won’t have the right to make any future decisions about the child. The father of the child (if known) may also have to agree to a adoption. If you’re thinking about adoption, it can help to talk to a counsellor or social worker for more information about your option.

If you choose adoption, it means that you will be pregnant for about 9 months and then give birth. It’s important to have a doctor that you see regularly to take care of your health and the health of the baby.

Parenting

Parenting means choosing to raise the child. If you’re a parent, you’re responsible for your child’s needs, including food, shelter, and clothes as well as caring for them emotionally. Parenthood can be unpredictable, so it’s impossible to be completely prepared. But, you can ask yourself questions to see if you’re ready to take that on.
Becoming a parent can be a great decision. But just like anything else, making that decision needs your own informed and enthusiastic consent! If you feel pressured into parenthood, or like you don’t have any other options, there are people you can talk to about other possibilities. If you choose parenting, it’s a good idea to see a doctor regularly to take care of your health and your baby’s during and after your pregnancy.

I feel pressured into making a decision

If you’re over 14, it is your choice whether to have an abortion, put the child up for adoption, or parent. No one can force you into any of these options. If you’re under 14, your parents or guardians are responsible for your medical care, but you can still have a voice. If you strongly disagree with your parents’ decisions, it can help to talk to a counsellor or social worker.

If you feel like you’re being pushed one way or another by your parents, partners, friends, or family members, it can help to talk to someone neutral, like a nurse or counsellor. You can call 8-1-1 to speak with a nurse. If you want to talk to someone confidential and non-judgemental about your options, you can contact services like Tel-jeunes, Head and Hands, and Grossesse-Secours.

Dealing with people’s reactions

It’s up to you who you want to tell about your positive pregnancy test. Often, when people learn someone is pregnant, they can assume things about that person. Sometimes those judgments fall on the decisions that person makes about their pregnancy. Some people judge others for having an abortion, but there’s also stigma surrounding adoption, and around people having kids. Those stigmas can make these decisions feel scary! But pregnancy is something that happens naturally, and it doesn’t make you a bad or immoral person. Whatever decision you make, you deserve safety, information, and support.

More info:

  • All About Abortion – Scarleteen

    Scarleteen’s All About Abortion page gives details on what abortion is, how it happens, what it feels like, and how to take care of yourself after.

  • All about Pregnancy – Planned Parenthood

    Planned Parenthood website that talks about how pregnancy happens, what to do if you think you are pregnant (how to take a test), and emergency contraception.
    *Please note that in Quebec we have different laws about accessing emergency contraception without a prescription from what is on this website*

  • Getting Pregnant: HIV+ Man and HIV- Woman

    Provides information around pregnancy in the case of a serodiscordant couple where the man is HIV-Positive and the woman is HIV- Negative.

  • Head & Hands Health Services

    Head & Hands is a health clinic for youth ages 12-25 near the Vendome metro station. They offer free, anonymous STD testing, even if you’re not covered by RAMQ. Head & Hands also has a lot of other services, including medical check ups, getting contraception, transitioning, and more.

    They offer a walk-in clinic on most Tuesdays and Thursdays starting at 4:45pm. Everyone who comes in for the clinic is given a name card and entered into a draw. At 5:00pm, they draw 10 names to decide who sees the doctor.

    They recommend bringing your Medicare card if you have it, but you can still see someone if you don’t have it.

  • I’m pregnant, now what? – Planned Parenthood

    Planned Parenthood’s guide to pregnancy support.

  • Scarleteen Adoption Info

  • Positive test! pregnancy options — Heart your Parts

    Heart your parts describes the options available if have a positive pregnancy test. They discuss: abortion, different possibilities for adoption, and parenting alone or with others.