Losing an erection can be frustrating. A lot of people feel embarrassed, upset, or worried about what their partner might think when it happens to them. It can help to know that losing an erection usually isn’t a big deal! Most people who have a penis lose an erection once in a while. It doesn’t mean it’ll keep happening, or that you’re not into someone.
A lot people lose erections because of badly fitting condoms. Sometimes people have so much trouble with condoms they don’t want to wear them at all. But, there are also other things that can cause someone to lose an erection! These include stress, substance use, and certain medications. So, there’s lots of different things to think about and try when finding safer sex that feels comfortable for you!
Lots of things can stop pregnancy, but condoms are the only thing that stops a lot of STIs. If you decide to stop using them, you can still lower your risks from STIs. Getting tested regularly and asking partners about testing and protection can help!
Why do I lose my erection? Is it because of the condom?
Lots of people lose their erections when they put a condom on or have sex. People sometimes lose their erections even if they’re horny and excited. People can be really attracted to their partner, love what they’re doing, and still lose an erection!
There are a few common reasons why people lose erections, that may or may not have to do with condoms:
- Their condom is uncomfortable because it’s too big or too small
- Their sexual stimulation stops for a bit when they put a condom on
- They’re not used to wearing a condom
- They’re worried the condom might break without a backup plan
- They feel nervous in general
- They have mental health problems like depression or anxiety
- They’re using certain medications
How do I stop losing my erection?
A lot of people lose their erections because they’re not used to the feeling of condoms, or because the condoms they use don’t fit them properly. It can help to practice wearing a condom to get used to the feeling. You can wear a condom when you masturbate, or do other sexual things. You can also try different sizes of condoms, and different materials!
Some people stay more erect when their partner helps them put the condom on. You can make putting a condom on a fun thing to do! If you keep doing sexy things when you put a condom on, it can help you stay erect.
Adding different kinds of lube inside the tip of the condom before you put it on can also help. You can find the combination of lube and condoms that feel amazing for you!
Sometimes, people lose their erection around the time that they put the condom on, but it’s not because of the condom itself. There could be a lot of other reasons, too. Stress, anxiety, or worrying about whether or not they’re good in bed are common reasons why many people lose their erections during sex. If that’s the case, it can help to try to stay “in the moment”, and focus on what feels good! Talking to your partner and letting them know what you need to feel confident and excited can also help a lot.
What can I do if nothing is helping?
If you’re having a lot of trouble keeping an erection, and not much has helped, there are lots of other things you can do to give and receive pleasure! You can:
- Touch other sensitive parts of your body
- Dry hump
- Give your partner oral
- Use sex toys
There are lots of sexual things you can do without needing an erection or a condom. You can still use your mouth or your fingers! There are lots of ways to find new sexy and fun things. Taking away the pressure of needing an erection might even help you keep one!
It can help to remember that there are as many different ways to have sex as there are people having it! This includes safer sex, and sex with or without condoms. The most important thing is that you find what feels great for you and anyone you have sex with.